Coralie has a popular column in FHM called "Ask Coralie". Here she is asked a plethora of questions relating to sex, relationships, boys, girls and everything in between. Coralie is ready and waiting to answer your questions…grab a seat and a magazine from the waiting room table, she will be with you shortly. x
Q:Sometimes when I’m having sex, I come very quickly. What can I do to keep going a bit longer and enjoy it more?
A:Well, my first question is, how quickly are we talking? Most men come within ten minutes – or earlier – while having penetrative sex. The main reason for premature ejaculation is anxiety. A guy who has come quickly in the past dreads it will happen again. There are a few techniques to help. If you are just about to come, think of something to put you off (I’ve heard thinking about the guy you could not stand in school – imaginge him naked). Another way could be to use a condom, as it feels less sensitive. There is also the squeeze technique – as an orgasm approaches, you remove your penis and squeeze the head until the orgasm subsides. There’s also the stop-start technique: when you feel an orgasm coming, stop penetration and start again when you feel less aroused. Some men find having a wank an hour or so before sex makes them last longer. Short, rapid thrusts often leaqd to rapid orgasm, while slow and long helps you gain orgasmic control. I once dated a guy who cam really quickly. We found it helped if we spent a lot of time on foreplay kissing, going down on me, fingering me, etc… so at least then, if I had not already come, it wouldn’t take too long.
Q:FHM’s last sex advisor once mentioned a “69” – what position is that? My girlfriend and I only know two- missionary and doggy style, neither of which give me enough depth. Can you suggest any positions that would allow me a greater level of penetration?
A:Position 69 is a great one for foreplay – it is where you are both top-to-tail, pleasuring each other orally – she is sucking you, while you go down on her. Doggy style usually creates the deepest feeling and is great when you want a fast, hard, deep session (especially if you pull your girlfiends hair gently – very sexy!) But I don’t find doggy style very intimate and and prefer to be able to see and kiss my partner. I personally like the side position, where you are on top and the girl is on her back, but you cross one leg over the other and lift it. This position creates very deep penetration and is good because you can see your partner and play with her boobs, while she responds in kind. Or try with her lying on her back, with legs very wide and thighs pulled back to her stomach. Also try sitting facing each other, with her legs wraped around you – this can be intimate and deep too. Or when the girl wraps her legs around you and you stand up – you can lift her up and down your shaft (use a wall for support if she’s heavy). Spooning (both on your side, you behind her) has many advantages – you can get in deep while stroking her boobs and cltoris.
Q:I am a 20-year-old guy but I have no never slept with a girl. When my penis is erect, the head cannot come out - it is painful if I force it. If I pull back my foreskin before it becomes erect, it's really sore and I have to let it slide back over the head. Would circumcision be the solution? How would I get that done professionally?
A: This sounds very painful and you need to see a professional urgently. Your condition is not because you are a virgin. Some mend foreskins can be too tight, so this is not normal - but don't panic, it can be fixed! Call your general practitioner and book an appointment (some GP's do perform circumcision, so it's worthwhile to ask), otherwise call your local hospital or clinic and set up an appointment with a urologist. That's a doctor who specialises in the penis. Be sure you get it fixed, so you are no longer in pain ANC can enjoy mastrubation and, eventually sex. Good luck!